I'm sure you've all had the feeling that you are "behind". Behind in a class struggling to catch up. Behind on that essay that you put off until the last minute. Behind on the news because you spent a week on vacation, or was just too busy or tired to watch. Behind on house chores that you never seem to have time to do. I think that you catch my drift.
Lately I have been feeling simply that... behind. With everything. Somethings, such as my website, book, packing, etc are because I don't seem to have the motivation to do it. I'm always fairly tired when I get home and on weekends I just want to relax. A lot of times when I do the things I know I want to do, or need to do, it's because I'm forcing myself -- not really out of my own free will. I guess being behind in these things doesn't bother me too much because it's just how I am -- I'm a procrastinator and I have been my whole life. I don't think that will ever change.
But the things that I am behind in that aren't from lack of motivation are what bothers me. I feel behind in friendships, in school, in certain skills and just in some of the things that all other people my age might be caught up to speed with. Some may say that I am not at all behind, but I just feel like it.
For example, I kind of feel like a lousy friend. I feel like I'm SO behind on my friendships and my friends lives. It makes me feel rotten =/
There are some friends that I haven't seen in awhile because of our past and I'm concerned about it getting in the way of our future. There are other 'friends' who haven't really even made an effort to be my friend since Spence passed. And then there are those friends who sometimes contact me, we talk, and then I don't contact them again for awhile. I then realize how much I miss them in my life and only some times do I make the effort to contact them again. If I miss them so much then why does it take so long for us to talk or hang out? I just get to feeling bad about it, because I know that I'm not fully upholding the duty of our friendship
. But then again... it's hard to stay in contact with people when you're living 2 states away. It takes a lot of effort and it's effort that I just haven't had the energy to give. I hope that people can understand that. Sorry to anyone who has felt like I've been a slacker. =/
I feel behind in things such as school, work, interview skills etc. I have only completed 2 full years of college when most people my age have completed 3. I'm not saying that I'm regretting withdrawing from classes, no not at all, because it was the best decision I could have ever made and I know that I'm going back to school to finish my degree. But it's just a bummer that I'm not almost done with school. In fact I don't even know what I want to do with my life -- I kind of feel like I'm back at square one.. Okay scratch that... I'm even further back than square one, because when I graduated HS I KNEW what I wanted to do! haha
I have only held one job aside from babysitting and being a nanny my whole life. I've only had about 2 interviews. I really have no job experience which hurts my chances at getting a job. Yes I have a ton of life experience, volunteering, etc... but sometimes they just don't care because they want you to have JOB experience. This has been hard to deal with when typing up my resume and thinking about ways I can talk up my strengths and try to get around the I've-really-never-had-a-"real"-job thing.... I just hope that I can get an interview and pray that my interviewing skills are okay.
I think that a lot of this is a normal feeling after losing someone you love. The concept of time that I have now is SO much different than before! The world keeps moving on when you want to yell at it to just SLOW DOWN and let you catch up. Tomorrow marks 7 months without Spence and I'm definitely not even being close to caught up to speed. It's obvious that it's going to take awhile. I am bummed that the last 7 months of my life have kind of been on hold, so to speak... But it's been nice being home and spending time with family again.
Just wanted to write out some of my thoughts. Might not be that eloquent, but it helps me sort through all the mumbo jumbo in my mind!